Ask what the person is seeking, avoiding, communicating, or needing.
Respond to capacity before behavior
What abilities are available right now?
Use observable signs to choose the safest response. You do not have to diagnose the moment.
1
Choose the current 0–60 level
Select the closest level—not a perfect number.
Early signals
2
Select what you can observe
Choose all that apply right now.
Recommended response
Capacity is available
Use a calm boundary and support a replacement skill. Keep watching for changes.
Practice during calm
Teaching the Pause
Learn how to build a small space between the feeling and the action. Watch and practice when the nervous system is calm so the skill is easier to reach when frustration begins.
Teaching video • 10 minutes
Personalize the support
My Safe & Steady Plan
This first version saves the plan only on this device. Avoid entering private medical details.