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Army Veteran • Advocate • Educator • Founder

I survived the silence.Now I help others speak and be seen.

I'm Mary Stanley—an Army veteran, autistic advocate, neurodiversity and trauma specialist, educator, speaker, travel professional, and mother of two neurodivergent children.

Professional portrait of Mary Stanley
Mary StanleyGuided by understanding. Driven by purpose.

15Years of Army service

2Neurodivergent children

3Connected service paths

1Mission: create possibility

The road that shaped the mission

Service, family, and the courage to look beneath the surface.

I enlisted in the Army at 17. Over 15 years of service—from aviation search and rescue to nutrition—I learned discipline, leadership, responsibility, and what it means to keep going when the path is difficult.

Military service also taught me that strength is not the absence of struggle. People can look capable on the outside while carrying stress, trauma, pain, or disconnection others cannot see.

Becoming the mother of two neurodivergent children changed the direction of my life. I saw how quickly behavior could be judged without anyone asking what the nervous system, body, environment, communication, health, or unmet need might be saying.

I founded Supportive Minds to give families and professionals the understanding, tools, and steady guidance I once needed. Freedom Route Travel and Veterans Services grew from the same belief: people deserve access, dignity, connection, and opportunities to experience life beyond the limits others place on them.

Mary Stanley traveling with her son beside a waterfall

Why lived experience matters

The work began at home.

Parenting taught me that a plan can look perfect on paper and still fail the person it was meant to help. Families need more than general advice—they need someone who understands the daily decisions, safety concerns, school meetings, sensory needs, communication differences, hard moments, and meaningful wins.

“The goal is not to fix the person. It is to understand what is happening, create safety, and build a path forward together.”

Army service

The mission never ended. It changed.

My military experience continues to shape how I lead: assess the situation, protect people, communicate clearly, adapt the plan, and never leave someone behind.

At Fort Sam Houston, I created an Adopt a Soldier program to build connection and support. That same instinct—to see who may be overlooked and create a stronger system around them—runs through everything I do today.

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Professional foundation

Education supports the work. Lived experience grounds it.

Mary brings professional training together with practical problem-solving and respect for each person's nervous system, history, strengths, and goals.

01

Autism & Neurodiversity

Certified Autism Specialist with professional and lived experience in sensory regulation, communication, executive functioning, behavior, and family support.

02

Trauma & Nervous System

Master-level trauma certification and training related to trauma, PTSD, nervous-system regulation, brain-body connection, and whole-person wellness.

03

Behavior & Change

Training in integrative behavior support, NLP, hypnotherapy, play-based approaches, kinesiology, and tools that help uncover what may be driving a pattern.

04

Education & Leadership

Business Management graduate, summa cum laude, with experience in education, advocacy, program development, speaking, and community leadership.

Newly completed training

Three new accredited professional certifications.

Each certificate was issued by Wellness Courses, states that Mary successfully completed accredited training, and displays the IPHM Accredited Training Provider seal.

Mary Stanley certificate for Autism Spectrum Disorder coaching from Wellness Courses
Accredited professional training

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) Coaching

Wellness Courses · Issued April 3, 2026

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Mary Stanley certificate for somatic trauma regulation and nervous system training from Wellness Courses
Accredited professional training

Somatic Trauma Regulation & Nervous System Training

Wellness Courses · Issued May 21, 2026

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Mary Stanley certificate for practitioner training in vagus nerve regulation and HRV from Wellness Courses
Accredited professional training

Practitioner Training in Vagus Nerve Regulation and HRV

Wellness Courses · Issued May 21, 2026

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Qualifications are presented as professional background and do not replace individualized medical, mental-health, legal, or educational advice.

Recognition

Leadership recognized by peers and community.

Mary's advocacy, leadership, and commitment to making support more accessible have been recognized by Influential Women and the local Alignable community.

Influential Women recognizes Mary Stanley, company owner and founder of Supportive MindsView Mary's Influential Women profile
Mary Stanley, Alignable Medford Local Business Person of the Year 2025
Local Business Person of the Year · 2025
Mary Stanley, Alignable Medford Local Business Person of the Year 2024
Local Business Person of the Year · 2024
Highly Recommended by Locals on Alignable
Highly Recommended by Locals on Alignable

What colleagues say

Recognized for advocacy, leadership, and lived experience.

Selected excerpts from professional recommendations for Mary Stanley.

“Mary Stanley is a brilliant and compassionate mind in the neurodivergent space. As a veteran…”

Takeerah JonesBringing Robotics to Kids

“Mary is a champion for autistic kids in America, using the resources her military background has given her…”

Anik DeanA&A Business Associates

“Mary uses her personal experiences with raising two autistic children to help others find…”

Leland BurtonAffordable Attorney Services
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What I believe

No shame. No stigma. No fixing the person.

01

Support starts with understanding.

Before reacting to a behavior, ask what may be driving it.

02

Behavior is communication.

The body, brain, environment, health, stress, and skills all matter.

03

Connection is not giving in.

Safety and compassion can exist alongside clear, respectful boundaries.

04

People deserve real possibility.

Understanding and access can turn an impossible path into a meaningful next step.

Let's connect

You do not need the entire plan before taking the first step.

Contact Mary about family support, professional training, speaking, veterans services, accessible travel, or the next idea you want to make possible.

mary@supportiveminds.us